About Lori Karch, LCSW
I met ‘the love of my life’ in 1992 and knew we would live happily ever after. Sure, we fought occasionally and sometimes there were big fights, but we were married and I’d been told ‘all couples fight.’ When the feeling of dissatisfaction became constant, I suggested we go to counseling. My husband, George, didn’t want to go. So, I headed to the library and literally checked out the shelf of relationship books and started reading. When I came to Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt, all sorts of light bulbs went off in my head. Not only did it address my marriage, it described every relationship I’d ever been in! I bought the book, gave it to George and he read two chapters and said it wasn’t for him. Thinking at the time that ‘it takes two’ to make a relationship work, we divorced and I moved back to Indiana to be around my family and lick my wounds.
I continued studying the Imago theory and started doing the exercises in Keeping the Love You Find (also by Hendrix). I found an Imago therapist and started dating again. Enter Kevin. We had a wonderful relationship for about six months and then the power struggle hit. I asked if he was interested in going to a workshop and the courageous man that he is said “Yes!” And so off we went to an Imago workshop. In those first few months after the workshop when we would have arguments, we would literally get out our workbooks and follow the instructions and read the sentence stems to get us through our conflicts.
Eighteen plus years later, we are both in the relationship of our dreams. We rarely argue, we experience joy and laughter on a daily basis, and we feel more in love than ever. This really is the love and relationship of my dreams.
As for me, I went back to school to get my masters degree so that I could become an Imago therapist and began my official training in Imago in February of 2006 becoming certified in 2007 with an advanced certification in 2008. I am also a Certified Imago Consultant providing supervision to therapists as well as a Certified Workshop Presenter. I have complete Level 2 of Brainspotting and working toward certification. Other training includes Interpersonal Neurobiology and Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy.
My mission is to bring the tools of Brainspotting and Imago Relationships to couples and individualsof Indianapolis and Greenwood to enrich their love and their lives.